You’re walking down the street with your wife or girlfriend; you’re on your way to some sort of destination simply looking ahead in no particular direction when WHACK, you get smacked upside the face, back, or whatever body part is available: “WHAT are you looking at???” she demands. You look at her with this confused look on your face; you were looking at the palm trees lining the street ahead of you but you can tell by the tone of her voice she isn’t going to buy that……“the palm trees lining the street” you say hesitantly. “Right! Was it the blonde or the brunette?” You think they’re pretty don’t you?” she says in a GRADE A bitch tone, and this is where the argument begins. “I wasn’t looking at anyone babe” he says. “Oh please!” she says, “I saw you looking over there”, blah, blah, blah.

Such a familiar situation, in fact, what I’ve written above is an actual event that took place today thus this article. If I hadn’t of thought the girl would have tried to kick my ass to for sticking up for him I would have told her what I really thought.

Simply stated, I think whether saying “I do” to marriage or to a committed relationship with a girlfriend, it is perfectly okay and normal to look at other people of the same sex and of the opposite. Some women take this way out of control in thinking that because men might look at other women that that means they “want them” or that they are being “disrespectful”. Unless they are looking at them and making sexual remarks what is the issue? My friend once told me “nothing is good or bad it is only thinking that makes it so”, I think that statement definitely applies here. If he thinks the woman is attractive it doesn’t mean anything else other than she is attractive, it’s highly likely that others find her the same, both men and women. If he can appreciate her beauty, can’t you? It seems to me that some women think that once you say “I do” in whatever respect that may be, that suddenly you are blind. Are you really being realistic in thinking he’s not going to find anyone other than you attractive? Sometimes it’s not that people are attractive necessarily but rather interesting looking in some sort of manner.

I check out everyone, men and women, I appreciate human looks, all kinds of random looks; it’s like an art to me. My husband checks out women all the time, I don’t mind, I do too and it’s human nature.

You’re getting yourself all riled up for nothing ladies, save blindness for old age.

Christina Lyons

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